He is still away but is texting and calling. Mostly work-based but then to see if the socks he found are mine. He tells me how he wished we had spent more time at a location he saw today on his dive, meaning he’s sorry I’m not there to see it with him. He texts me thank you for taking care of him today because of what I ordered with year end funds. I say I am getting better at taking care of him over time. Tonight I am going over his sons cover letters and resumes for a job application. We are emailing then he texted me a thank you and said I really helped. I am excited for his son and him. I am sure he is proud of what his son is going to be doing. His ex wife or one of his ‘girfriends’ are not the one he turns to, its me.
I am going to Belize, no resistance from him, and I asked him to come for the second week. He is going to join us, at least he is planning on it.
Perhaps he is really seeing the light finally. He knows I am capable of leaving and he would be lost without me. Maybe he realizes it. Maybe he knows. Breathing the same air at depth, when he would have been out, when he would have had to bolt to the surface, that meant something.
But what good does that do us really? He wont say anything and I have to assume what he has said is true. That he doesn’t think of me beyond work. That things wouldn’t be different if he wasn’t my boss. That the last time we were in Belize he was thinking of ‘her’, a married woman. That he had his other ‘friend’ over for dinner on a Saturday night. That he went to two concerts this summer with someone else, who? And I saw a text from the married ‘friend’ show up on his phone while we were traveling so that is still going on at some level. I have to remember this and keep trying to move on.
He loaned me a book on transitions while we were away. He seems to read a lot of self help books. Its a good book. I am in transition. Something has ended and I don’t know what will begin. That is what I’m seeking. A beginning. Will it be him? Should it be him?