A Twist in the RomCom – Hawaii?

I am applying for a job in Hawaii and I have a shot at getting an offer. We were sitting outside on a bench having lunch. I was not sure how to approach the subject so I just told him. His immediate reaction was to try to talk me out of applying. After lunch he went right to his computer and read the job announcement. Within 10 minutes he’s saying I should consider it, if its something I would want. The next day he is talking me out of it again.  I have very mixed feelings too. I tell him I could leave my job, the institution, and not feel bad about it, but leaving him would about kill me. He blushed and said he was a pain in the ass. I agreed.

He has been super sweet ever since. He said he would be a professional reference for my application. I am doing dishes and realize his cups are not in the sick. We practically run into each other as I walk out and he walks into the kitchen. He goes to dry his hands on the dish rag hanging below the sink I am standing next to and asks if he can use my skirt. I laugh and say no!

As far as work goes, it would be a huge change, a demotion really. But less administration and more of the fun work. It would also be a pay cut, but housing costs are less in Hilo.

The offer might not come and I might not have to decide. If it did, it would be a financial choice based on the salary they are willing to pay. Personally, it would allow us to finally have a romance, 5000 miles away, but that  would  be more of a romance than  we can have now.  He loves Hawaii and I know he would consider retiring there. I think he realizes he could work for one or two more years and then join me. Alternately, he could be not thinking that at all. I have no idea. But the way he looks at me when we part ways says otherwise.

Reunion #1

He’s back. It’s been 6 weeks since I have seen him.  I have my daughter with me and he is with his son. We text. He’s coming to the city to see the fireworks and invites us to join him. An actual invitation. That is a new thing. I decline because my parents will be arriving but say we will try to connect earlier. It’s raining. My daughter and I walk down to the festival. I text and call when we arrive and get no response. It is pouring rain and the festival is cancelled.  I am sitting in a tent in the rain with my daughter. I fear I will miss him completely and then I’m gone on vacation and won’t see him for 10 more days. Then He calls. His phone was silenced and he didn’t know it and missed my call. He’s across the mall. We walk towards him and I see his tall familiar shape coming my way on the rain. We meet in the middle of the mall in the middle of the rain. He’s alone so my daughter says, “your missing someone” meaning his son. Pointing at me he says, “I’m missing your Mom”. OMG I almost died right there. I walk up and say I feel like I’m seeing a ghost. He says he’s not a ghost and I go in for a hug (Hug#4 and yes I am counting). We stand in the rain, his son and my daughter meeting for the first time, chatting and laughing and catching up. What an adventure they had what a thrill to be together again. Sadly We depart. I look back for one last glance and he is just looking away froM doing the same thing. Later that day he invites me to join them for a movie. I can’t because my parents are now here.  I haven’t seen him since. We have texted a bit but that’s it. Now I’ve been away for 10 days. I will see him tomorrow at work. What will reunion #2 be like? 

10 Stages of Loving Your Boss

1. You don’t. Your terrified. You resent the control he has over you and you which he wasn’t there. 
2. He makes you laugh and seems genuine. What color are his eyes? You don’t know because you have been afraid to look. 

3. You both have a lot of questions and are in each other’s office, a lot. He is new so it seems reasonable but did he really need to ask you that or did he just want to visit? His eyes are blue. 

4. Stop thinking about him. I’m mean it. Stop. Okay stop now. Can’t stop thinking about him. 

5. This will pass. It’s because he is new. Give it time and the day will come when you wonder what the hell you were thinking. 

6. It’s not going away so what exactly is the attraction? You make a list of likes and don’t likes and the like list is huge. 

7. Jealously kicks in. What is he doing over the weekend? Who is that calling him or texting him. You start to imagine the worst and it makes you cry. 

8. Acceptance that this is love. Years have gone by and it’s not going away, in fact it’s stronger. That list of likes doesn’t shrink, it grows, and the dislikes get smaller. 

9. Acceptance that there is nothing you can do about it that doesn’t turn into you losing your job. This equals sadness. 

10. ? I don’t know. I am stuck at 9.  

His girlfriend on my phone?

The weekend after our trip I’m at my house all alone. It’s weird being alone after weeks with him. He’s out sailing with the guys. I am going through the pictures on my phone of our travels to post and in the middle of them is a female face. It looks like a manikin. I’m wondering  how this picture of a manikin got there.  I look closer and it’s not s manikin at all. It’s a woman with overly smooth face and big hair. She’s cute and wearing lots of makeup. It looks like a selfie a woman would send to someone she likes. I freak out. I text it to him. “do u know her?” “Yes” he says. “Where did u get that?” I explain and get silence…half hour later I txt “girlfriend?” Silence…

I am now going through hell.  I’m freaking out that he is getting txts from some chick and she’s pretty. I look at the picture and it’s creepy. She’s too young I think. If he wants to date a young manikin then let him. I activate my okcupid account. I cry in the bathtub. I delete the picture of her as well as some pictures of him. I change the photo for his contact info to a closeup of his fat belly and man boobs. I cry some more. I run 4 miles each day. Still silence from him. 

It’s a three day weekend and on Monday work needs his attention so I txt him about it. Later he txts back “I’m trying, spotty connection.” And I forgive him. I’m such an idiot. Who am I to say he can’t date? If  I want to date or flirt or txt a man I sure will. 

Tuesday morning I get to work and kill him with kindness. He asks again how I got the picture. Did he think I was up to something?  I tell him. There were two pics of him and his son on my phone too. He says it is just an old friend and the picture doesn’t even look like her, he’s not sure why she sent it to him. I know why but don’t comment. 

 I still don’t know how those photos got there, gods will? Says the athiest. His phone was getting constant txts for a while but that seems to have died down.  A female called him in the airport on way down. Maybe they were flirting a bit and it has passed. Or maybe it hasn’t passed. He tends to keep things from me that would upset me. I am so sick of this roller coaster ride but I can’t get off. The truth is, I don’t want to get off. 

My Birthday and a non date

It was a Friday at 5:00 and he said he wanted to see a movie. He didn’t ask me to join him, btw, but said he was thinking about going to a movie, many times.  So I invited myself and he agreed.  He said he was going to get dinner first, so if I was going for a run, I could meet him at the movie.  There was no time to run so I said would join him for dinner at Quiznos.  Fine, he said, Lets get the tickets first. We walked to the theater and the movie we wanted to see was not playing there. Now we were stuck.  Well, he said.  I said we could see it another time.  I wanted to take you to the movie for your birthday, he said, you had a rough day and I wanted to cheer you up.  Oh, I said. Hmmm. I guess that’s it, he said and looked at me with this worried look, like I should do something. What a dork! I waiting for him to take the lead, this was his idea, but he failed.  Finally, after standing there for I don’t know how long, I said we could still get dinner.  Okay, he said, where? So we stood there for I dont l know how long figuring out where to go for dinner. Finally we decided and ended up having a very nice dinner of pizza and beer.  Whew!  Why was that was so difficult? He seemed very uncomfortable until I got a beer in him.  It was like he wanted to do this but didn’t know how.  That was our one and only non date.  Doing that now doesn’t even seem like an option.  I don’t understand why.

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The Run in the Rain

It was raining hard. One of those long steady downpours. She was in her room at the B&B. He was standing in her doorway talking about work, or whatever, she hardly cared.  There was vacuuming in the hall so he closed the door.  He had his laptop and she hers.  He was at the foot of her bed on his knees with his laptop on her bed, discussing work. The rain was coming down even harder. They were there all morning, all afternoon, all alone, talking, breathing, and listening to the rain. 

They forgot about lunch so she shared a Kind bar she had in her bag. He is so beautiful, she thought, does he even know how beautiful this moment is? To have a warm steady rain drumming outside and a beautiful man at the foot of your bed?  All day?  To this day, the sound of a hard, steady rain brings back this vision. 

 The rain eventually let up. They decided it was now or never for a run. There was a trail across the road so they took off, he in the lead. He was being a sissy about getting his feet wet so she shoved him on. He took off and she didn’t see him after that for the entire run.  Did I say it had been pouring rain? Oh yeah and the trail was soaked. The first creek crossing was a challenge, but she found her way by walking upstream and jumping. The second creek was more of a challenge and she was stuck. She couldn’t turn back because she was afraid she couldn’t cross back over the first creek again, so she stood there in the middle of the woods in Alaska, in the middle of the rain, all soggy and wondering what to do and where was he? A local man came by and guided her safely across the flooded creek. It was still raining by the time she made it back to the B&B and she was completely soaked. She didn’t see him at first and plopped her last steps with a jump into a large puddle in the driveway, then looked up and there he was.  

He was standing on the steps, tall and totally soaked.  He looked at her, not sure what to expect. She said, “that was the best. run. ever!” because it was.  They both burst out laughing.

The owner of the B&B came out and said they were two kids out playing in the rain. 

He told her about that second creek crossing how he had stepped in on the side and fell into the water up to his neck. She stood next to him and said she would have gone under and told him how someone guided her across.  They laughed and took pictures of each other to share with family. She keeps that picture of him standing tall and soaked and smiling on her phone. OMG, she thought, this guy loves to play outside!

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Then came Alaska

They had a meeting to attend in Alaska. It was going to be difficult, her former boss would be there.  She was stressed over this but excited to go to Alaska.  She had never been there and wanted to have some time to enjoy the location. He suggested they go early and enjoy the weekend before the meeting. And so they did. 

Bed and Breakfast’s are the cheapest places to stay so they booked two rooms in a B&B.  She was still married at this point and knew it was not going to go over well at home.  She was starting to realize just how unhappy she was and nothing was going to stop her from this chance to enjoy herself. So she told her family what she was doing and off she went. 

Describing the beauty of that entire week is impossible. The location was spectacular and he was too.  I will share a few scenes with you in the next few posts as an example. The truth is she had been crushing on him up until that week, but that week, that very week, was the week she fell in love.  That week seems like a dream but that week really happened.  That week was magic.

 

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Disappoinments

There were disappointments, of course. Their relationship was new, complicated, and still evolving.  For example, she worked hard to make his first birthday in his new life a good one and he didn’t seem to appreciate it. In fact, he commented on how someone else in the office had tried to make his birthday great.  He was enjoying the attention but it was insensitive and still stings.  Then, he forgot her birthday completely.  Maybe he didn’t care about her at all.  When she told him it was her birthday he bought her lunch the next day, so that made up for it, sort of. 

 That spring they taught a class together. The students were the age of their kids. The students call her Mom and him Step Dad. They had different styles of parenting which caught both of them both by surprise and it probably disappointed him. No, they sure couldn’t have raised a family together, but at their age, that doesn’t matter anymore.  And they were both very reasonable when they discussed it.  The way he handled the difficult conversation impressed her.  He was her supervisor but never seemed to use the “because I am your boss” card. He treated them like a team.  She appreciates that every day to this day.

 

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They Look Like a Couple

When they were out together, strangers assumed they were a couple. They would correct the mistake at first, but it happened so often, neither of them bother to correct anyone anymore.  In a bar once with a group of people, she went to get a beer. While the bar tender was pouring her beer, he came up and said he would like a taste. Instead of giving him a sample in a small glass, the bar tender handed him the beer she was pouring, which was hers. He took a sip and handed it back. The bar tender finished filling the beer, then handed it to her. What the heck? She thought, we are not a couple! He didn’t bother say anything except I’ll have one too. Fast food restaurants would charge whomever made it through the line first for both meals.  She was starting to feel like a couple and had to watch herself. At a trade show someone asked if she was his better half and much to her embarrassment, she said “yes”. He just looked at her and she said, “At work!  I’m your better half at work.” which is true, so darn true.

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Next week: Disappointments

How did he feel about her?

She reminded him of his mom, he said. He teased her relentlessly. They would talk for a few minutes only to find 3 hours had passed by.  He called her a distraction.  He would make comments about romantic things. She was smart but silly. The goofy things she did made him laugh. She laughed too because there were just some darn funny things that she did. That is how she is, a great source of entertainment for all.  They worked on many things very closely.  They both started exercising regularly again. She found herself thinking of him, more than she should. She traveled and missed him, not her husband.  She never really did miss her husband but was surprised that she missed him.  Time passed and they became closer, talking about things one does not talk about with one’s boss.  He shared things with her that surprised her, and she did the same. She was falling for him, deep inside she knew it, but was he feeling it too? How will she ever know?

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 Next week: They look like a couple